A garden grows in a predictable order, starting with a seed, then the roots, next a stem appears, leaves are next, then buds start appearing and finally it blooms. Likewise in children, every major skill is preceded by the development of a smaller foundational skill.
Now imagine if we tried to force open every bud of a plant at the same time, because we felt that it was time for them all to be in bloom. We would have interrupted its season of growth and ruined the bloom by forcing it. Our competitiveness, need to compare, and anxiety have encouraged us to force the bloom to open rather than to see to the plant’s foundational needs, like nourishing the roots and stems. Just like flowers, our children need to bloom in season.