“You should clothe yourselves instead with the beauty that comes from within, the unfading beauty of a gentle and quiet spirit, which is so precious to God.”1 Peter 3:4
Dealing with emotions and relationships is like nailing jelly to a wall. It is messy, unpredictable and complicated. Try hitting the pause button on whatever situation is making you feel like you want to explode. The only way for God to reveal what He is doing, is for us to get quiet with Him.
In the quiet:
- We find refreshing through prayer and we are reminded that God is the infinite source of strength, wisdom and joy.
- We feel safe enough to humble ourselves. Outside the quiet, we want to prove our point, but inside the quiet, we can humbly ask God to speak truth into our hearts in order for things to start making sense.
- God lifts us up to a more rational place. Emotions drag us down into a pit of hopelessness. The only way out of the pit is to make the choice to stop digging deeper and to turn to God for a solution.
- Anxiety gives way to progress. Jesus loves us unconditionally and we can pour our hearts out to Him without fear of judgement. This realization softens us and allows Him to work on us. If you are trying to fix something or someone, it will only add to your anxiety. Rather allow Jesus to fix you.
- We acknowledge that our real enemy isn’t the other person or the situation. We need to be self-controlled and alert because our enemy the devil is prowling around like a roaring lion looking for someone to devour. We need to resist him and stand firm. These are wise words from 1 Peter:5
- We can rest assured God will use this conflict for good – no matter how it turns out. We can’t control what other people do and therefore we need to focus on the good God is working out in us, through the situation and leave the outcome with Him.
Meditate on Psalm 46:10 “Be still and Know that I am God”
Food for thought:
God always gives the best advice. He knows how important quiet is for us. It is not only a wonderful time to connect with Him, but is vital for our mental health. Clinical health psychologist Amy Sullivan says that when we are frazzled, our fight-or-flight response is on overload causing a host of problems. She goes on to say that we can use quiet moments to tap into a different part of the nervous system that helps shut down our bodies’ physical response to stress.
You need to find ‘your happy place’ and you do this by painting a mental picture of a place that makes you feel relaxed. This can actually calm your brain and body down by releasing you from the flight/fight state you are in. Take slow and regular breaths through your nose and out of your mouth, until you feel relaxed, while visualizing this place.
You could also go to your happy place by going for a walk in a place you love and breathing in the fresh air slowly through your nose and out your mouth. Listen to nature around you instead of music. Nature sounds can be very soothing, particularly running water.
Sit quietly with your journal and write down all the things God is bringing to mind. Enjoy the moment and thank Him for the quiet.
Dear God, thank You for wanting to spend time with me. I believe You are always at work in my life and always out to do me good. I know that holy restraint is an expression of Your goodness and I want to experience more of it in my life. I especially need holy restraint to take hold of me in emotionally explosive situations. Lord increase my desire to spend time with You in the quiet. Teach me how to be present with You in the same way You are present with me. Amen.