We all need affirmation, even the popular Natalie Summers sings: “What the hell is love supposed to feel like?” The words go something like this:
“I’m mad at Disney, Disney, they tricked me, tricked me,
Had me wishing on a shooting star.
But now I’m twenty something, I still know nothing about who I am or what I’m not.
So call me a pessimist, but I don’t believe in it, finding a true love’s kiss ….
Cause I’ve felt sad love, I’ve felt bad love, sometimes happy love turns into giving up.
I feel hurt love, by the word love… What the hell is love supposed to feel like?”
Bible Reading Affirmation: 1 Corinthians 13: 4-8
” Love is patient, love is kind. It does not envy, it does not boast, it is not proud. It does not dishonour others, it is not self-seeking, it is not easily angered, it keeps no record of wrongs. Love does not delight in evil but rejoices with the truth. It always protects, always trusts, always hopes, always perseveres. Love never fails.”
I remember these ‘Love is…..’ characters and sayings so well. They made it look so easy to have perfect relationships. They were all quick fixes, which would require very little time or effort, unlike the description of love in the Corinthians reading. Now that is the kind of love that could change the world but requires much more effort and reliance on God. Love is when Jesus died the most horrific death on a cross to save our lives and to reveal what pure, unfathomable love looks like. He also proved the depth of His love. God reached out, expecting nothing in return and emptied Himself completely for the very ones who rejected Him. You and I included. God knew how helpless we were. He watched us hurt, manipulate and kill one another and He could have left us to our own destruction and turned away in disgust, but instead, He drew near to us. That is what true love feels like.
Breathe from your diaphragm (the muscle beneath your lungs). This can reduce the amount of work your body needs to do in order to breathe. Lie down on the floor or your bed. Place pillows beneath your head and knees OR sit in a comfortable chair with your head, neck and shoulders relaxed, knees bent. Place one hand on your rib cage and the other hand over your heart. Inhale and exhale through your nose, bringing air deeper into your lungs, so that your stomach moves, rather than your chest. This needs to be practised every day for 10 minutes so that this type of breathing becomes automatic. You may get tired at first, but it gets easier.
Reflect on how many people you know that would die for you or suffer punishment in your place.
Meditate on this bible reading: John 15:13 Greater love has no one than this: to lay down one’s life for one’s friends and this is what Jesus did for you!
Remember: John 3:16 “For this is how God loved the world: He gave his one and only Son so that everyone who believes in him will not perish but have eternal life.”
Pray: You are a ‘good, good Father,’ Your love never fails. Even when I fail You, You love me all the same. Thank You for a love that never gives up on me. Thank You for the comfort of knowing that I am secure in the promise that nothing can separate me from Your love.
Food Diary: The benefits of chocolate
Chocolate benefits come from flavanols found in cocoa, which have antioxidant effects and a very bitter taste! Flavanols help maintain the elasticity of blood vessels, which contributes to normal blood flow. These flavanols start to disappear during the processing of chocolate, to improve its flavour and sugar content.
|4 grams of Milk chocolate equivalent to:||5.5 teaspoons of sugar|
|4 grams of 70% Dark Chocolate equivalent to:||3 teaspoons of sugar|
|4 grams of 85% Dark Chocolate equivalent to:||1.5 teaspoons sugar|
Research has shown that 70% cocoa and above (dark chocolate) has numerous health benefits on cholesterol and cardiovascular health, mood, cognitive function, gut health and reduces cortisol levels associated with stress.
Dark chocolate is best consumed in moderation- 20g to 40g per day. If weight management is a priority, then consumption should be limited to 20g per day.
It is important to note that dark chocolate can be a migraine trigger for some and that it contains between 18-70mg of caffeine per 100g (the same quantity of instant coffee contains around 80mg). People sensitive to caffeine may need to be careful with consumption.